MTV 'n' ME

Every now and then when I'm at the gym or it's really late I turn to MTV and see what they have on. Some of their shows I actually find interesting, some I do not, but there's one in particular that always makes me cringe just a little as I see it.

The program I'm talking about is Room Raiders.
If you're not familiar with the series; it's a show that is half reality TV and half gameshow. The premise is that there is one person who is selecting from three potential mates, but the twist is that the one person who is choosing investigates each of the persons rooms while the owners of the place watch him turn-over their rooms on a small TV in a van. Then they make their decision on who they're going to date based on the contents and condition of their rooms.

I've seen about 5 episodes, maybe parts of more, but it seems like it happens pretty frequently that someone stumbles across condoms, porn magazines or nude images on someone's computer, lubricants that are suspiciously close to the bed, and on some occasion whips, dildos, vibrators, and the like.

Generally when these items are discovered the owner of the place looks concerned and sometimes tries to act like it's funny to them, but it's clear that they are very uncomfortable. The rest of the show is quite bland. So this is the part that I've thought about.

Every time I see something like this happen on the show I always think to how I and everyone else would react if it were to happen to me.
I don't know whether I would try to lie about what it was or just explain it out right then and there. I suppose it would depend on what item was taken out. If it was a dildo or something, well that's pretty self-explanatory. I mean, most people would probably assume I'd use it on myself or something and that doesn't bother me, even though I don't. With a male catsuit or gloves or hood or something, I don't think I'd even try to explain it then either. I'd maybe say, "I like latex" or "I like it kinky" or something, but nothing too uncomfortable or awkward.
Although, if someone were to unearth some of my CD stuff, for some reason, I think that would really get me. If it were clothes, it's not like I could be like, "Oh, that's my gf's" cause if I were on the show I wouldn't be in a relationship.. and even out of the context of the show, it's doubtful that my gf would wear clothes that would fit me cause I'm a relatively large guy.
If some false breasts, hip bumpers, or corset or something was taken out, I really don't know what I would say. I also think I'd be quite bothered by it.. that's probably why I don't invite people over that much to go digging around my living space. =P

Actually, about a year ago, maybe a little more or little less, my gf came across a stash of women's clothes that I had been accumulating over the years. When she did I immediately felt my heart drop and was kicking myself for not hiding them better.. Although, there's not a whole lot of room to hide things away in my tiny studio apartment.
She immediately thought that I had been cheating on her or something. So I just said, "no, they're mine. I used to wear them a lot.. check the sizes." When she checked the sizes she realized that I was telling the truth. I wasn't all that ashamed or anything, but that was largely due to the fact that she was fine with it.

I later told her about my CDing interest that was/is still very much alive, but I hadn't indulged in for a long time. She was again fine with it. She even opted to buy me women's clothes so I wouldn't have to resort to getting things online and having it be a huge hassle. Although, she hasn't gotten me much recently, however I haven't been dressing up much recently either. So I guess it's ok.. but I've been interested in getting some women's boots, but I'll have to talk to her about that. =P
In the end it has turned out quite well and I feel comfortable being myself around her, but it certainly doesn't translate to being wholly comfortable about all my fetishes.

Tying back to the room-raiders discussion, beyond my own reaction I would be more fearful of other's reaction to it. I mean, would it be of disgust, interest, or complete confusion? Probably a mix of confusion and disgust. The thing is that the public has been exposed to normal tools of sex; dildo's, vibrators, mail-order lingerie, etc. but I think that latex is something that not all people are wholly aware of in the same way. I mean, people have seen it: the matrix, underworld, etc. but I don't think that people really understand it. I think that it could easily be passed off as one of those indicators for someone being a total freak or weirdo.

If you look at mass-media depictions of S&M, furries, adult babies, etc. They're all seen as being these indicators for someone being a weird social deviant who is on occasion associated with some sort of crime. The movie 8mm for example, the main villain or goon is this fat guy in a black leather mask. I mean that has become the standard view on bondage. And in the movie it depicts people who are into bondage as being these crazed lunatics who gain immense sexual pleasure from hurting and killing people.. which is really not the case. I haven't spoken to many dominatrixes, but I would be willing to bet that they don't go around hurting people without consent for their own personal pleasure.

Anyway, another day, another tangent.
I just find it a little frustrating at times how fetishes are made out to seem in the media.. and it bothers me even more how the people who practice these fetishes are seen, cause the majority of the people I meet online through some similar fetish related interest are very nice, normal, and Law Abiding. lol.
If I could only say that for the majority of people I've met (in my normal life), then the world would be a much happier place.